"Sorry, you're just not my type."

That phrase ranks among the most demoralizing phrases anyone, boy or girl, could hear. It's often seen in dating, but it could also be heard in the workforce or even in sports. You're not the type we're looking for. You're not the type I could see myself with. You don't have the type of look.

ENOUGH with the whole "types" thing. Honestly, in some cases, having a type is one of the dumbest things I've ever heard of.

Lets start with relationships. I've noticed that lately, there have been girls who will complain about being single or not finding "the one." Want to know why that's the case? They limit themselves only to look for their type of person they want to date. Add that with the fact that, 9 times out of 10 you aren't going to find "the one' when you're in high school, chances are you're most likely going to keep rockin' the single status for a bit longer if you don't ease up on you're demands. Sorry, not sorry. This certainly isn't the case for ALL girls, but for the ones who ARE like the description I gave, you people just need to lighten up with the demands. 

By the way, some boys have crazy demands, too. On to the next point.

Then there is the workforce. This is more about the employer rather than the employee. I feel that sometimes, bosses are way too stingy when it comes to who they want. I'm sure it's for a good reason, because after all they do have a business to run and keep a good name for. But still, just like girls (and boys) have them in dating, certain bosses have a borderline ridiculous kind of type.

You see where I'm getting with this?

And then there's sports. Perfect example: Tim Tebow. The dude is built lie a TANK. People always say he isn't the typical type of quarterback. But hell, he's had some pretty damn good moments, hasn't he? Exactly.

The point being is that types aren't everything. If people would stop having a serious case of tunnel vision and realize that, there would be more happy people in the world.

Pa 
 
The irony of this post: it was typed during a VERY rainy morning. I would've posted last night, but...well, you know.

Anyways, as a result of last night, I'm in probably one of the better moods I've been in for quite some time. It's hard not to be. I mean, come on, did you see that game?!? Shame on you if you didn't, and if you weren't going absolutely crazy (especially in the 3rd period), go find a corner and sit ALL THE WAY DOWN.

Holy tangent, Batman. Back to the good mood point.

Whenever you're in a good mood, or even a great one, people always feel the need to knock you off that high platform. That's really just the case in everyday life. Do something good or are on the verge of doing something good, there's always going to be those people who either want to all of a sudden be your best friend or worse, initiate your downfall.

Simply put, when its looking like you're about to reach the top, people are going to multiply their attempts to knock you down times 100. The best way to deal with them? Keep moving on up, and put the blinders on.

You don't have to let others start to put the full-court press on strapping you down to the ground. Long story short, read the title again. Don't let them rain on your parade. Keep marching and moving on up.



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Just a heads up: I've noticed that on the previews of the blog posts on the site, certain things get cut off. If you didn't already know, you have to click the title to see the rest of the post. I know most of you already figured that out, but hey, there are those select few.

Now that that's over with, on with the show.

I've noticed that people are very timid about a certain aspect of their lives. What I mean by that is there could be that ONE thing someone absolutely loves, but they think that if people found out, they'd have people laughing at them left and right. It's pretty sad, actually. Some of the things that people keep under wraps are pretty cool! I mean, I can only guess as to what the reason is for concealing it, but I honestly think that most people should make that secret public.

Lets take me for example. Other than the whole theater thing, I'm the textbook definition of a "stat geek". Couldn't you tell by the fact that I watch Numbers Never Lie A LOT? If there's a stat or a number or anything of sorts that I find interesting, best believe I'm telling it to people. Most people get annoyed at the fact that I talk so much about numbers and stuff at times, but when it comes to my friends and sports, I'm the guy they come to. Pretty cool to me, at least.

Now ask me, do I really care what people think about me being a stat geek? Nope, not really.

Fact of the matter is this: if you have something that not many people know, but you think it's pretty cool, why not let it fly? Hell, you might be surprised as to the reaction that you get from it. Even if you have/want to wait for the perfect opportunity, take the chance!

Pardon my indulgence.
 

I can't even tell you how happy I am right now as I post this and as you read this.

For starters, and for what it's worth, I'm posting this at my friend's house (I've been here since 4 P.M. roughly...its 10:39 P.M. now). Am I having fun? Three words: HELL. FREAKING. YES. Nothing beats hanging out with friends on a Saturday summer night. Especially when it comes to epic fuzzball matches and eating Jello....yeah, you read that right.

Then you add the fact that the Miami Heat are repeat champions....'nuff said.

Oh, AND I GOT A JOB!!! Working at a Chinese place, and I must say, I don't think I ever jumped so high in the air even though I had an injured foot (just got off crutches....sprained foot.) I mean, I'm a teenager. I can not tell you how much I need money. So much stuff to get, so little time. Plus, I'm a dude. Dudes need money, because quite frankly, chicks love dudes with money.

So basically, I'm in a FANTASTIC mood. Between hanging out with these guys and texting a few good friends, this mood can only continue to go up. My apologies for this short post!

And pardon my indulgence. 

 
First off, shout out to LeBron for winning his second straight title and shutting his haters ALL THE WAY DOWN saying, "I ain't got no worries." Also, shout out to him for being the reason why I'm blogging on this topic tonight: having no worries.

So...having no worries when it comes to haters. We all say it. We all say that we "don't care" about what people say, but deep down, we really do. It may not happen at that instant, a few hours down the road, or even a few days and/or potential weeks. At some point, however, it hits us. And when it hits us, we start to wonder if those words that were said hold some form of legitimate substance.

Mental toughness plays a role in whether or not one truly has "no worries". That, along with previous experiences and also character. If you're someone who folds easily under pressure and adversity, chances are you might have more than your fair share of worries when people talk. Of course, you can build up immunity to it all. That, in my opinion, makes ones' "no worries stance" a lot taller and tougher. When you finally say "Enough is enough" and just block out the negativity, that's when you TRULY know that you have no worries.

Key example: LeBron Raymone James

I feel that I'm making good progress on truly having no worries 100, but it's still a work in progress. Unitl , I suppose I can say "I ain't got no worries....most of the time".
 
So, I'm watching my recording of Numbers Never Lie (I know, shocker), more of my inner dorkiness came out.

They were starting to talk about LeBron James, and anyone who knows me knows that I absolutely IDOLIZE that man. Today's LeBron topic? His headband falling off last night, and him not caring. The question was whether or not it truly mattered to him that he played the most crucial moments of the game with his "40-year old man" hairline exposed (mind you, 'Bron is about 27 with THAT hairline. Cue the hairline jokes...they are never-ending!). That was when Jemele Hill said something that really caught my attention.

I can't remember what she said word for word, but it went something like this: "It was a good thing, because anyone who knows LeBron knows that he cares too much about his public perception, but we're seeing him overcome that." CARES TOO MUCH ABOUT HIS PUBLIC PERCEPTION, BUT IS OVERCOMING.

Soooo....what you're saying is that my role model and I have something in common?? I have something in common with LeBron James?!?! This is awesome! It's too awesome!!! It's......me being more of a dork than I already am when I'm watching that show.

But really though, it's time to get serious. Caring about how one views you is, as obvious by the example above, more common than you think. There's nothing wrong with it...we ALL have insecurities. Some have more than others, some have less, and then there are the rare ones who aren't very insecure at all. With insecurities, we have to manage them in some form of fashion, and it's how we manage those insecurities that show a person's inner strength. At some point, our insecurities will get the better of us. But the less frequent they do, the better. If you can learn to live with an insecurity of yours 100%, then you're mentally stronger than what you may already give yourself credit for.

Why did I post this? Hey, I did say you guys will find out more about how much of a dork that I am overtime. Plus, this gives me a perfect segway to say two things:
  1. Screw insecurities and anyone else who tries to capitalize off of them, and keep on pushin'.
  2. Go Heat, baby!!! Let's get us a Game 7!!!!!

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Wow.

6/19/2013

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My apologies for not posting last night. A LOT went down yesterday, and it can only be described with the same word this post is titled as.

Wow. Just....wow.

Lets start with the fact I was playing basketball yesterday, like any other day, and twisted my foot. Just a little sprain, right? Wrong. I'm on crutches right now. What's even more pathetic is that there were people laughing while I was obviously having trouble even getting up. Needless to say, I won't be playing basketball for a bit. Oh, and I hope karma gives those guys that laughed a swift kick in the arse.

But that was the "bad wow". Here comes two cases of "good wow".

My brother got his license! Yep, there's a new driver on the streets. Grant it, he drives a bit too aggressive (according to my parents), but hopefully that changes. But getting one's license is a milestone, and for that, I say, "Congrats, little bro!"

Last, but certainly not least, we have last night's Game 6 of the NBA Finals, which can also be described like this:

OH. MY. DEAR. LORD.

I've been on this earth 17 years, and so far that was the best Finals game I've seen. In a game where I lost my voice, probably screwed my foot up worse, went through several Heat shirts (superstition, I guess you can say), and watched my friends go from taunting me about the Heat to suddenly go mute, I can not tell you how happy I was. Game 7, y'all!!

Now, lets just hope I can actually post everyday again. Oh, and that I can put pressure on my foot soon.

Pardon my indulgence.

 

So, I'm sitting here watching baseball, blogging, and listening to Frank Sinatra. Quite the combination, eh? The fact that I'm listening to some good ol' Sinatra reminds me of something: People really need to find other things to pick on me about other than my taste in music.

Yes, I'm a black boy from Chicago. Yes, I lived in a mostly black area. And yes, the same boy we're talking about happens to listen to virtually EVERY GENRE OF MUSIC ON THIS PLANET. What can I say? I love to break stereotypes. I guess it's just funny seeing people's reactions when I say something like, "I have to go to that John Mayer concert!" The funniest reactions? When I told someone that I listen to Michael Bublè.

And then there's the time when people found out I listen to country music. Their expressions were like, "What the HELL is this city boy doing listening to country?!" The moral of the story is this: you can't judge a book by its cover, and you can't apply a stereotype to everyone.

Also, people just have to deal with the fact that I'm not your average black boy from Chicago. Yeah, I'm cultured. Deal with it.

Pardon my indulgence.

 
Show of hands: how many of you guys have seen, heard, or know of someone(s) that seem to be in a new relationship every other day? Yeah, there is quite a few of them.

Okay, maybe saying there are a "few" of them is being too kind, but you get the point. I've seen and know quite a handful of them, and to tell you the truth, it's pretty annoying from a spectators' point of view. Now, I'm not against dating people and keeping your options open. At the same time, though, if you say you "love" each and every one of them yet break up within a week, that isn't really showing love, is it? It's like they just HAVE to be dating someone, you know?

Now that I think about it, if people notice this, why are they quick to date a person like that? Wait, I think i just answered my own question, and I think it's better that I don't post that.

Let me just say this: I don't know what goes on in everyone's mind and/or lives. I'm not going to judge EVERYONE. It's just the people that do it WILLINGLY that have a tendency to rub me the wrong way. But if someone has a past that leads to constant changes in relationships, then I can completely understand that.

Anyways, I personally don't get those "I-must-date-someone" people. Like I said, if you're dating people, that's cool and all. Whatever floats your boat makes you happy is all good with me. But if you're averaging at least 3-4 relationships every two weeks? Let's just say that, at some point in time, your dating credibility starts to drop pretty steadily.

Oh, and a few "Connor Moore respect points" might be docked from you, as well. But hey, who cares what I think? 

Pardon my indulgence
 
I'd like to think that this school year, I broke out of a shell that I've called home for about 6-7 years. For my friends, they finally saw the happier side they've been waiting to see. To others, it was a case of , "Where the hell did THAT come from??" Feels pretty damn good, I must admit.

And another thing I must admit: I plan on making sure this "happier Connor" sticks around for a little bit.

I'll be honest, being upset over everything eventually pissed me off. I know what you're thinking: "WHY DIDN'T YOU DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT?!?!?!" My answer to that is this: I got accustomed to being pissed off or sad. I really didn't even attempt to do anything I personally wanted to do, mostly because I didn't see a point. I honestly thought I was gonna be upset in some form of fashion, so I didn't even try.

Sure, it took me longer than people would've liked, but I finally told myself the words that my closest of friends probably deep down wanted to say: "WAKE UP!!" And did I ever come awake.

Perfect example of how I'm finally doing what I want to do? Read yesterday's blog entry. Hell, just take this entire website for example. I know that there are people who are probably getting tired of seeing me post this stuff of Facebook and Twitter. But for every person that hates it, there's a person who likes it. I will admit, I'll have my spells, but I'm doing a better job of keeping them in check. 

Long story short, I'm happy with finally being happy. Expect to see me capitalize on this more in the future. Why? I'll tell you why..